Trying to Unlove to UNCONDITIONAL LOVING

All right, I felt so passionate about writing this blog post today because this subject has been on my mind for a few weeks like CRAZY! I feel this intense energy in the air and I just have to address here; otherwise, I feel it’s going to be on my mind forever.

The energy I have been feeling since the start of February: People TRYING TO UNDO LOVING SOMEONE (romantic interest). As in stopping themselves from feeling the sensation of love, not allowing themselves to LOVE, not giving themselves PERMISSION to love, and telling themselves it’s not safe to LOVE. (Sorry I edited so that it reads “not” because for some reason it got left out. Meant to say “not.” Okay I am human hehe. ;))

I know it sounds weird but that’s what it is. Maybe it’s because Valentine’s Day is fast approaching and it brings up old, unfinished healing for many people because the focus everywhere it seems for the month of February… IS. ON. LOVE.

I mean it’s on tons of TV commercials, internet ads, and all the displays in the stores are just plain hard to NOT notice lol.

I just want to share my thoughts on this topic BECAUSE a.) I have a lot of experience with this and it is something I struggled with for a couple of years (oioi) and b.) I feel this intense energy that prompts me to address it. I seriously thought I could just keep this inside and just go on like I normally do when I discover a common energy theme going on in this big ole world. I guess because I have had this breakthrough myself and as I stated before struggled with in the past, I knew in my heart I couldn’t ignore it.

It just breaks me when I see people struggling with this business of trying to unlove someone they love so dearly or want to love but they feel like they can’t. It almost like the words that define this energy is like someone saying “Great, now I have to stop loving/liking [insert name] because [insert reason here].”

This could be for a variety of reasons. I’ve broken some reasons down:

1. The person you love does not feel the same way about you.
2. You think the person you love doesn’t feel the same way about you.
3. You are afraid to love this person for fear of getting hurt. You think LOVE = Pain in the end. (Most likely you haven’t fully healed from your last past love relationship).
4. The person you love is already in a romantic relationship with someone else.
5. Any combination of the four can be at play.

Believe me I know this post sounds so dramatic but I see this all the time. Just a few years ago I myself thought I could not love again for fear of getting hurt in the end. So what did I do? I stopped myself (hahaha TRIED to at least) from feeling any deep loving emotions with a potential romantic partner.

Then FINALLY (a loooong time later) I decided that it was safe to love and it was better to have loved than to have not. (Like that saying goes.) BUT by the time I ALLOWED myself to feel the love the person moved on with their life and was out of mine.

I struggled shortly thereafter from trying not to FEEL any loving emotions towards that person because I thought I couldn’t LOVE them anymore because they were not in my life anymore. In other words, I tried to stop myself from feeling loving emotions, feelings, and thoughts.

I can laugh about it now because I know I was at war with myself at the time. I remember heading out to the forest frequently to gain spiritual wisdom, to hear the answer to my question: Do I love or unlove? And how the heck do I unlove?

At the time I thought it would be unsafe to love without receiving the same type of love back.

I was DEAD wrong.

And while part of the “war” with myself was due to the fact that I did very much want to one day be a in a loving, healthy relationship with someone, I thought I was creating a block (for new love to come in) IF I still had feelings for someone else (that’s another blog post in itself for another day).

The truth is love feels good! Why deny yourself that feeling? What if you just loved without asking for anything in return? What if you allowed yourself to feel and receive the gift of LOVE?

You can still move forward with your love life and feel the love regardless for many people. You don’t have to try to unlove anyone.

It’s called having a BIG HEART!

If it gets to a point where you start feeling like it’s unsafe to feel the love you can visualize a red heart-shaped balloon floating up to the sky carrying the love for that particular person. Only the love is transmuted and not the fear. By doing this visualization you won’t be creating a block for new romantic love to come into your life because you’re not stuck spending so much time creating fear-based energy anymore. Yayyyyy woo hoo!

Okay that was a mighty long blog post… phew! Anyways, glad to share! I know it may have been too much information about me, but what the heck! It used to be a big deal for me trying to decide love or unlove. I hope it may help someone in a similar “war” they might be having with themselves. LOVE! :)